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My first week at my new job, I was invited to lunch by the CEO. He mentioned that he takes an employee out for lunch weekly to discuss their role and offer suggestions for improvement. While I appreciate the gesture, I feel uncomfortable during these lunches, as my work mainly involves quick problem-solving, leaving us with a lot of time to fill. This often leads to personal discussions, which I’d rather avoid. Additionally, I don’t particularly enjoy the CEO’s company. Last week, I requested a formal meeting in the conference room instead of lunch to discuss my performance. The CEO eventually agreed, but emphasized the importance of the lunch tradition. How can I politely decline these lunches without causing tension?
Response: You are entitled to your feelings, and it’s important to address your discomfort. Politely explain to the CEO that you prefer formal meetings to keep interactions strictly professional. Request feedback in writing and suggest one-on-one meetings for further discussions. Remember to stand your ground without overexplaining.
A Smelly Situation
I have a colleague with consistent body odor issues despite previous conversations about it. Although she sought medical help before, the problem has resurfaced. Another colleague believes discussing this again would be hurtful. How can I address this without causing distress?
Response: Addressing personal hygiene is a delicate matter. Politely inquire if your colleague is still receiving treatment and express that the odor is affecting the work environment. Approach the conversation with empathy and offer assistance. Acknowledge the sensitivity of the topic and aim for a respectful discussion.
